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Using Sex Toys in a Relationship


Benefits of Using Sex Toys in a Relationship

Some people believe that sex toys are for single people or when alone. But using sex toys in a relationship can be very rewarding. If you use adult sex toys when your partner isn’t around, then you’re missing a huge opportunity to benefit from one of the most erotic uses they were meant for.

Using sex toys in a relationship can actually benefit your sex life in many ways. Sometimes you can have one partner that is more insatiable than the other. Using a sex toy can help fill the gap and give the other partner time to recover for round two. Some sex toys such as the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit, can actually help men last longer, making both partners happy. There are also cock rings, and desensitizing creams, sprays and jells. There are also some supplements/pills men can take, but we generally caution against putting any and everything in your body.

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Some sex toys can also enhance and prolong foreplay and generally make things more fun. Try using a blindfold to make foreplay more interesting. Have you ever heard about dirty dice. That would sure add some spice. What about mood lube? Ever heard of that? Well, mood lube can give a warm, intense and tingly edge to your lovemaking.

How about creating your own peep show? Pull out the toys and have your partner put on a show for you while you sit back and watch until you can’t take it any longer and get in on the fun. Jay and I hae tried this several times, I usually lose patience though, as there’s nothing better than watching your own homemade live porn show staring none other that the love of your life. Putting on a sexy costume or lingerie can certainly add to the visual experience. Not only is it fun, but we’ve found that when we watch each other pleasure themselves we learn how to pleasure each other better.


Which Sex Toys to Use as a Couple?

The decision on using sex toys in a relationship can be tricky. First of all you have to figure out which toy works best for what, where to get it and what’s the best price. But its really figuring out what toys work best for you that really matter. This can only be done correctly through research and proper communication. There are a lot of adult sex toys out there to choose from and some are even designed for couples only. But all toys can be used in a relationship, you just have to use your imagination and keep in mind that it’s not just about your pleasure alone or their pleasure alone but about your pleasure together as a couple. Sex is supposed to be fun. Heck, life in general is supposed to be fun. And you know what they say, “Life’s a ride”. So ride it real good!


Have you ever used a sex toy?

Yes, all the time
Yes, tried it once
No, but I’m considering it
No and never will

4 Comments to Using Sex Toys in a Relationship

  1. Iddo says:

    Using toys is something that might work. I think it depends on both parties to step out of their comfort zone and try something new.

    Maybe that half the fun 🙂

    I don’t imagine I can stand it for just one second if my wife will perform a show

    • Kay says:

      i know exactly what you mean Iddo. They key is that the sex toy is merely a tool and NEVER the main focus nor the substitute for the real thing. So you’re very correct in saying that it’s half the fun. Another key term you used was ‘comfort zone’. Sometimes we get a little too comfortable and things start to get stale and ‘same old’ after a while. The sex toy is one tool that can help add a little spice in an already healthy relationship.

  2. Larry Lozada says:

    Hi Kay,

    I never tried to use sex toys with my girlfriend. Perhaps it would be worth trying to surprise my partner with a sex toy gift.What do think?

    • Kay says:

      Actually Larry, research shows that 1 in 5 guys buys a sex toy or other related sexual accessory. This compares to 1 in 20 women. Isn’t that interesting? But at the end of the day sex is all about having fun, building trust and growing in intimacy with your significant other. So why not? Give it a try. You might be pleasantly pleased. Your partner will love you for it. Trust me.

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