We’re Jay and Kay.
You’re probably wondering why we’re talking at all about male sex toys or why the male sex toy has any place in the bedroom or in a relationship for that matter. The notion of sex toys for men is taboo for some but not for us. Using sex toys to spice up a relationship is a very effective strategy. After all, sex is supposed to be fun and playful. And what better way to have fun and spice things up than using sex toys in a relationship.
So how did we get here?
Jay and I have been together for over eight years now. We sat next to each other on a ferry ride back in 2008. We were both on an away-from-home work trip. I was on a business trip to meet some clients and he was heading off to a new post for six months.
When I first saw him back on that ferry ride I thought he was quite dapper and incredibly cute. He was sitting in a section all by himself. “Ooh eye candy”, I thought to myself and plumped myself down on a couple seats to his right. He was rather quiet. I learnt later that he was a bit sea sick at the time and the conversations we had kept his mind off of his ill feelings.
As it worked out, Jay and I worked in related industries. I was a consultant for a tourism firm out of Germany and he worked in an official capacity with the government in a tourism related post. I gave him my business card and told him to give me a shout if he wanted to hang out or something. And as they say, “The rest was history!”
Our first experience with sex toys goes back to a few weeks after we started hanging out. We were not even an official couple as yet. Needless to say, I saw this cool silicone, battery operated dildo whilst on a business trip to London and I bought it for him. It was from a popular sex shop in Soho. Of course, he was a bit taken aback. At that point we were already having sex and started developing strong feelings for each other but we were still not exclusive. So me buying a sex toy for the first time in our early relationship was a bit risky. But he said it was the best first sex toy ever. Then months later (after we were official this time) I traveled to the Dominican Republic and bought him another sexual trinket. This was more an erotic art piece, just a little something to let him know I was thinking about him while we were apart.
We’ve always believed that sex is an important aspect of any romantic relationship., especially for two young and healthy men. Why not spice up your sex life? Why not make sex both loving and playful? We’ve found a lot of different things that worked for us – change of scenery, different locations and varied positions. We’ve tried different types of lube – silicone based lube, water based lube (ID Glide is our favorite), aloe vera gel, oils and even saliva (yes, the last one was not so pleasant). We’ve had sex on the beach (no not the drink), in the bushes, by the river, on the couch, in the bathroom, standing up, sitting down and even overlooking the courtyard through our hotel room window (alright, we love sex, who doesn’t). We believe in trying anything and everything at least once – as long as we do it together and as long as we’re both sharing our love for each other and having lots of safe fun. After all isn’t that what sex is all about – fun?
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