8 Ways to Have a Threesome without a Third Person

In the summer of 2015, I had the privilege of spending three weeks in New York on holiday. Jay was stationed there for a few months and I decided to take advantage of that opportunity to spend some time with him there.  Well enough, we made a few friends and acquaintances along the way.  Two couples in particular stood out for us and we consider them close friends to this day.  Somewhere, somehow, the topic of threesomes and foursomes came up.  In fact both couples on different occasions (one subtle and one more direct) invited us to join them for some ‘fun’.  I don’t know what it was, perhaps the novelty of two guys from the Caribbean or maybe it was just a common trend in the Big Apple.  We both emphatically, but politely, declined their offers.  This was a big shock to them.  “You’ve never had a threesome?” They would say.  They were even more amazed that neither one of us had ever cheated on the other.  “You’ve never cheated?”  Their shock was an even greater surprise to us.  Both Jay and I cherish and firmly believe in monogamy and fidelity.  We’re the most traditional “non-traditional” couple you’d ever find.

 

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However, the idea of a threesome is still somehow intriguing, even if it’s just at a fantasy level.  We’re guys after all and fantasies and sex often go hand in hand for most men, if not all.  But we’d never actually get into a real live threesome situation.  And it’s not that we’re bashing threesomes entirely.  It’s just not for us.  First there is the issue of jealousy.  I know for a fact that I’d get mad jealous if someone was being a little too affectionate with Jay.  Then there’s the possibility of developing feelings for the other person.  I’m a very emotional lover and it’s virtually impossible for me to have sex with someone without first having some level of emotional connection with them.  The sex compounds those feelings.  So a threesome will be emotionally complicated for me.  It’s best if I stay clear of it.

 

Then there is the issue of who to trust.  Do you have a threesome with a random stranger or do you pick one of your friends who you can trust to share your body and mind with.  Strangers bring their own level of issues – trust, do they have any diseases, will it work out, what should we do with them, what are the boundaries?  This is just too much work for my part.  You still have those same questions with friends but there is the added question of possibly losing a friend if it gets to complicated.  There is also the possibility of becoming too attached and then developing an emotional connection which then leads to cheating in the future.  I don’t know about you but that’s just too much work and too many “what ifs”.  My motto is to keep it simple.  It has always worked for me.

 

However, having a threesome is a legitimate sexual trend that is facing many modern couples, straight and gay alike.  How do you deal with having a threesome when one party is against it?  How to do a threesome when both parties are for it but are too scared to initiate something?  What about the issue of trust, safety and STDs?  Then there is the emotional aspect.  Jay and I sat down and discussed the possibilities enjoying the benefits of a threesome without actually having one.  We call it the “fakesome”.  And here are 8 possible “fakesomes” to experiment with.

 

1. Role Play

One partner can pretend to be someone else.  Maybe your fantasy actor/actress.  Zac Efron is my threesome fantasy.

 

 

2. Tell a Sex Tale

If you do want to have an actual threesome why not talk about it in a sexy way.  Who you’d like to do it with?  What you’d like to do with and to them? Take turns describing a hot scenario in vivid details.  Get each other all worked up and then take your pent up sexual desires out on each other.

 

 

3. Be An Exhibitionist 

Put on a show for the neighbors (without actually letting them see or getting caught).  One of the big turn ons in a threesome is the naughtiness of being watched by a third person.  Why not open the blinds or go wild in the wild.  Get it on with the lights on.

 

 

4. Use A Sex Toy

Jay and I discovered the Double Up Dennis sex toy.  This toy is made for sharing.  One in front and the other at the rear.  Could make for some interesting nights.

5.  How about A Raunchy Robot or Desirable Doll

Robots and Dolls are becoming a growing trend in the sex industry.  If you have the cash and would like to try a threesome without having a third person then a sex doll or robot is a perfect solution for you. Check out www.realdollpalace.com for a selection of female sex dolls.

 

 

6. Dress Up to Get Down

Try dressing up in a costume to be different.  How about the sexy fireman or the naughty school teacher.  There are load of costumes that can make sex more fun.  Who said dressing up in costumes was only for Halloween?

 

 

7. Watch Yourselves Get it On

Voyeurism is a huge part of threesomes.  So why not set up a mirror or better yet get out your camera and start recording.  Lights, Camera, Action!

 

 

8.  Get Blind Folds

Try putting on a blind fold and pretending that your partner is actually someone else.  Remember, sex mostly occurs in the brain.  So use your imagination and have fun with this.


 

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